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OK so I took a few days so I could process my feelings, sorry if it took awhile to get back to you.

Mom,
you admitted to saying those words, you phrased it different then how I remember hearing it, but either way the frist thing out of your mouth was about my smell, not that I drove 4 hours, not that I made it to your show, not even that you were happy to see me, not even to ask how the show was, I remember what I heard, and you remember what you said, but the effect is the same, my feelings were hurt, and yes people heard you, uncle johnny had to talk me though it once we left.

you have excellent social skills but you have made a habit of treating me like I am still an exception to that rule and that has continued to hurt me for quite some time now, I really don't know what to do anymore, it seems like as long as I bring someone with me, like Colin your fine, but when I am alone you change, and I don't like it. I don't even think you are aware of how much you change sometimes. I love you mom, but you know I am sensitive, and I just wish you would take that into consideration, instead of using it as an excuse every time you hurt my feelings.

over the phone the other night I wanted an apology, I still do, and it was clear you were not ready to give that, all my life you and Mrs Simmons have told me that "it is not about who is right it is about what is right," and I feel like you ignore that whenever someone comes to you with a complaint, all my life I have had to take the piss if you and I were to have a good relationship, it did not matter if I thought I was right, I just got tired of fighting, or worse the fight was never resolved just ignored over my desire to end confrontation, and I can't do that anymore, I want a good working relationship with you, one that is based on trust, and love, and I don't feel like I have that with you, and I don't want the relationship that I have with grandma to become the relationship I have with you, but it is starting to feel that way.

I know we love each other enough, that has always been clear to me, but I am not a child anymore, and I need you to start treating me with at least common courtesy.
I love you mom and you mean the world to me so we need to fix this
-Jessica